Divorce

This week in class we talked about divorce. We learned that there are different processes of divorce. The processes are: emotional, legal, economic, co-parental, community and psychic. There are many predictors that lead to divorce. These are:one options, haven't seen a healthy marriage, follow destructive pattern, recreate patterns and cohabitation. The way to protect against divorce is to date. Within two years most people who have divorced say that they wish they would have worked through it and saved their marriage. Most people think that their second marriage will be better but in reality they are never as good. The rate of divorce goes up with the second and then so on. Divorce tears the family a part and the children always feel torn.

Parenting Roles

This week in class we talked about the different roles that parents have as they raise their children. Parents have the responsibility to teach their children values and traditions. They need to teach the kids about God and how to develop Godly qualities. Parents provide emotional and physical protection.All of these things are important for a child to have when growing up. I am thankful that my parents taught me the correct principles and that they lead me in the right direction. I am so excited to have children of my own so my husband and I can teach them about Christ and show them how wonderful life is when he is a part of your life. Parents have a huge role to fill, but it is such a rewarding one.

Parents working..

This week in class we talked a lot about how the family is when both parents are working. Some families need both parents to work in order to make ends meet, but whenever it is possible the mother should be at home with the children. When the mother isn't there a lot of bonding time is cut out. After school when the kids come home if the mother isn't there to help them with their homework and just even talk to them about how their school day has gone, the kids end up turning to other things, which are not always the best. I feel it important for me as a mother to do everything i can in order to be there for my children. I want to be the mom that picks the kids up from school and talks to them about their day.  I cherish that relationship with my mom and i want my kids to be able to have the same relationship with me.

Communication

This week in class we talked a lot about communication.  Everyone interprets things different so it is important to not beat around the bush but rather just come straight out and say what you mean. I know from personal experience that it just causes a lot of unnecessary problems when people beat around the bush. I know that in my marriage it is really important to be clear in what we are saying to each other. My husband and I like it better when we are to the point instead of hinting things at each other. I know that by us having open lines of communication we are so much happier. It is a priority to me when raising a family that those lines are always open.

Crisis In Family

This week in class we talked about different crisis that happen within families. There are many things can can happen to a family and they can either bring the family closer together or they can rip them a part. Every family has some kind of crisis whether small or big. Every family has a choice to make of whether they will make the best out of situations or not. I know that in my family we always try to make the best out every situation. My husband and I try our very best to make the best out of everything and we are a lot happier because we do. Life is so much better when you make lemonade out of life's lemons.

Realtions in Marriage

This week in class we talked a lot about relations within marriage. We talked about how having relations can actually bring you and your spouse closer together. We talked about how talking about what happens during sex can actually bring the couple back together. Couples have said that they have to learn what their partner likes and therefore they are learning to love them in a new way. They have to learn to be unselfish and give their spouse what they want. Sex can be selfish or it can be unselfish depending on the attitude each person has. I think it is important to remember that having relations with your spouse is a wonderful thing and it makes the two of you closer. It can be a beautiful thing as long as it is done with the right attitude.

Marriage cont...

This week we continued to talk about marriage. We talked about difficulties that can happen within a marriage and how a lot of times they can lead to divorce. I feel like a lot of problems can be avoided if you and your spouse communicate well. All of the problems that were brought up were are caused by a lack communication. In my class there were a lot of kids who said that the time to talk about how many kids you want and where you want to live are all things that you talk about after you are married. I disagree. I think that things like that should be talked about long before you are married. I think it is important to know what the other persons views are before you get married. Then when you are married it is very important to communicate. I am very blessed to have a wonderful husband who will communicate with me, even over some of the silliest things.